Don’t lecture kids – use one-liners and ask them why it is wrong
What would you say if…
Kids tattling: are you telling me to help Johnny or hurt Johnny?
Kid interrupts you in class… would you like to explain to the class- be careful with this one, make them a leader, my job is to explain and your job is to listen, if it is continual pull off to the side and see what is going on and get to the root of the problem – get kids that have a lot to say to write thoughts on sticky notes or in their journal, set goals – has to put a check mark if interrupted and can only have so many check marks, use headphones as way to close off the noise,
Kids swearing… get to root, ask what happened,
If a kid calls another a name… Remind them of the beliefs (what do we believe about calling other people names) redo, remind them of how painful that is, we want kind words in our classroom, “not here” (you might do that out there, but not here,
Kid that always stays after school… give them that attention they need, establish the best time to do this, want that student to be strong and independent, explain to them that you want them to interact with other kids (ask if there is maybe bullying or something going on at home that this is the reason), get to the root
A kid is always showing anger- See what else is going on, get kids to walk it off (page principle or someone to help), a big part of it is just listening,
***ask why when you hear window words*** (verbal and nonverbal)
– A kid is yelling “thank you for showing me that your upset”
– won’t stop talking “one minute… ill come back to you “(then remember and go back)
– Storyteller kid “Can you write that down for me?”
– Say something sensitive “thank you for trusting me. Let’s talk more about this…”
– A kid says “shut up” to another “my job… your job…”
“I can see your really upset, tell me what happened” – write it down and don’t interrupt (getting them from emotional brain to logical brain).
“I can see why your upset, let’s fix it”