Ways to respond…

Don’t lecture kids – use one-liners and ask them why it is wrong

What would you say if…

Kids tattling: are you telling me to help Johnny or hurt Johnny?

Kid interrupts you in class… would you like to explain to the class- be careful with this one, make them a leader, my job is to explain and your job is to listen, if it is continual pull off to the side and see what is going on and get to the root of the problem – get kids that have a lot to say to write thoughts on sticky notes or in their journal, set goals – has to put a check mark if interrupted and can only have so many check marks, use headphones as way to close off the noise,

Kids swearing… get to root, ask what happened,

If a kid calls another a name… Remind them of the beliefs (what do we believe about calling other people names) redo, remind them of how painful that is, we want kind words in our classroom, “not here” (you might do that out there, but not here,

Kid that always stays after school… give them that attention they need, establish the best time to do this, want that student to be strong and independent, explain to them that you want them to interact with other kids (ask if there is maybe bullying or something going on at home that this is the reason), get to the root

A kid is always showing anger- See what else is going on, get kids to walk it off (page principle or someone to help), a big part of it is just listening,

***ask why when you hear window words*** (verbal and nonverbal)


– A kid is yelling “thank you for showing me that your upset”

– won’t stop talking “one minute… ill come back to you “(then remember and go back)

– Storyteller kid “Can you write that down for me?”

– Say something sensitive “thank you for trusting me. Let’s talk more about this…”

– A kid says “shut up” to another “my job… your job…”

“I can see your really upset, tell me what happened” – write it down and don’t interrupt (getting them from emotional brain to logical brain).

“I can see why your upset, let’s fix it”


Strength-Based Strategies

Presentation by Donna Nikiforuk

  • Seeing the greatness in every child…
  • Reclaiming youth – finding strengths in students.
  • Fair does not mean equal (we need to meet the needs of our students)
  • ¬†Good Teacher Behaviour: calm, joking, offer to help, fairness, smiling, explaining, polite
  • Look for what the students have done right
  • ***Don’t ask why- Ask what happened***
  • Appeal to the inner child
  • Switch from rules to beliefs (What do we believe we need to have a good classroom – make a classroom believe board)
  • CIRCLE OF COURAGE (belonging, mastery, independence, generosity)
  • Respond to students needs rather than reacting to the problems
  • Don’t get into a power struggle
  • Ways to help students belong: okay to make mistakes and fix it, help students be the best they can be, allow “do-overs”, is this helping or hurting someone?, follow up- what can we do to make it better
  • *language is everything*
  • “you are valuable”
  • Hurt people, Hurt people
  • Give kids opportunities to find their gifts
  • “caught ya” bin – get your names entered when you do a good thing
  • 5 needs: survival, belonging, fun, freedom and power
  • ***be the teacher students can count on***

10 habits to get into

  1. Treat all students with integrity
  2. Plan interest based lessons that capture attention
  3. Correct the behaviour, not the student
  4. Use powerful language – positive, encouraging, reinforcing
  5. Teach students about routines and procedures to evoke predictability
  6. Laugh with students
  7. Greet students at the door with a smiling face
  8. Take interest surveys to get to know your students
  9. Know all your student’s names
  10. Talk with your students individually

– Donna Nikiforuk (strength based strategies presentation)